How Rejection Can Actually Help You

The word rejection burns. There is probably no greater fear than being dismissed, refused, and denied. As a writer, a current college student, and a human being, I have been rejected many times and understand how it feels. 

We often do not understand that rejection is only temporary. The problem with rejection is that we cannot understand the greater plan behind it at the time.

When it comes to experiencing rejection you are never alone. Oprah Winfrey was pulled off the air as an evening news reporter and was told that she was “unfit for TV”. Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team. Walt Disney was fired from a local newspaper when his editor told him he lacked imagination. Mark Cuban was fired from his job at a computer store and that was the last day he ever worked for anyone else.

Rejection, in fact can be the beginning to something wonderful that in time will be shown to us. 

“Through my illness I learned rejection. I was written off. That was the moment I thought, Okay, game on. No prisoners. Everybody’s going down.”

Lance Armstrong

Rejection motivates us to do better.

 When being rejected, it can be a sign that you need to be doing better, or stop doing something you are. Figuring out what it is will put you in a position to do better, and experience less rejection in the future.

Rejection causes us to explore different paths.

Rejection can sometimes be life’s way of telling us that we need to explore a different path. Rejection can be a positive experience if you’re willing to take another path or try a new way of achieving the same thing.

 Rejection is an opportunity for growth.

When being rejected you shouldn’t take it as an automatic negative. Instead, try looking at it as a chance for you to grow and learn as a person.

Rejection forces us to reevaluate ourselves.

Many people deal badly with rejection. This is natural. Rejection is a painful experience. However, when someone hears the same thing enough times, they usually start to listen.

It makes you empathetic to others.

Experiencing suffering makes us kinder to others. Next time we need to let someone down, having experienced being let down ourselves, we are much more likely to be gentle. 


 After reading this article, the question now is, how will you deal with rejection? Will you take the opportunity it’s giving you…or  not? The choice is yours. 

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